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Building Self Esteem

Building self esteem is key to being successful and happy in your life. Low self esteem can really hold you back from achieving what you want. Self-esteem is the degree to which you value and appreciate yourself. If you have a high self esteem you will generally have a positive mental attitude, have a high self worth and be confident in who you are and your abilities. You will have a high degree of control over your life and know what you want. Key indicators of low self esteem are when you find yourself comparing yourself unfavourably to others, always criticise yourself and your abilities, will put yourself down in front of people, feel depressed, powerless and helpless. So as you can see having a low self esteem is not ever going to be beneficial to you so start building self esteem today!


As your Life Coach I can help you in your quest to building self esteem and can give you a great kick start to getting your low self esteem turned into high self esteem. Self esteem along with what I call the other 4 key internal factors namely self belief, confidence, worth, and image play a big part in getting you your ideal life so it's important to keep them in check. Even some of the most successful people you know may be grappling with one of these internal factors. It might be that low self esteem has not really been a problem in the past but over the last couple of months or years you've started noticing a difference in yourself and that a low self esteem has been creeping in. For example, you may be finding that tasks you have done in the past at work or the way you handle social situations have become increasing difficult to handle because of this low self esteem that you have developed.


It can be a lot of hard work to get your low self esteem turned around and back up to the high levels it should be at and the first thing is that you have to believe that it's possible and recognise that you wont allow low self esteem to hold you back any longer. Here are a few of my top tips to getting you started on building self esteem:-


  1. BUILDING SELF ESTEEM BY GIVING YOURSELF A DAILY PAT ON THE BACK
    To help you discover whether you have a low self esteem, you need to be aware of how you speak about yourself and react to people. Note down if you put yourself down and make a list of these comments about yourself. Remember people's perceptions of you will be based on what you think about yourself. People with low self esteem will tend to put themselves down in situations and undermine their achievements and who they are.

    Start to turn around your low self esteem by appreciating yourself. Write a list of all your best qualities and carry this list everywhere and read it on a daily basis. Also keep a tally of how many times you apologise and put yourself down and aim to decrease this each week. This is a great start to building self esteem through self appreciation and banishing that low self esteem for good..
  2. BUILDING SELF ESTEEM BY NOT THINKING NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT YOURSELF
    If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself – STOP! Replace these thoughts and low self esteem with positive affirmations like "I'm a confident person", "I'm capable of achieving anything I set my mind to", etc.

    This is a powerful technique to turnaround a low self esteem because you're literally talking to your subconscious where ingrained perceptions of yourself are stored. A great step towards building self esteem back up.
  3. BUILDING SELF ESTEEM BY NOT COMPARING YOURSELF NEGATIVELY TO OTHERS
    If you have low self esteem then don't surround yourself with people that make you feel negative about yourself and don't compare yourself to others. Instead focus on confident people who inspire you. Study their words and body language and adapt these characteristics to use for yourself. By doing this you are building self esteem effectively and knocking down your low self self esteem.
  4. BUILDING SELF ESTEEM BY VISUALISING A MORE CONFIDENT YOU
    Instead of seeing yourself as someone with low self esteem, imagine yourself as confident. See yourself moving around in situations as this confident person always building self esteem more and more. Do this on a daily basis as this will prepare you and will help to start seeing yourself and the person you really want to be. Banish your low self esteem and just continue building self esteem instead. Let nothing hold you back from building this self esteem from now on in. Low self esteem will get you nowhere!

Rebekah Fensome is an accredited professional Life Coach and Coaching Psychologist. She has her own private life coaching practice in London and coaches people face to face or over the telephone. She coaches a diverse range of people from actors, writers, Mums, bankers, traders, personal trainers, celebrities and entrepreneurs on various goals such as low self esteem, self confidence, career change, work life balance, etc. She also works with many companies helping their employees to achieve their career goals. To get in contact with her view the contact page or click here


Rebekah can helpwith all aspects of low self esteem, womens self esteem, building self esteem,enhancing self esteem.

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